When the radioactive dust settles and you have successfully made it to the other side of the toxic swamp that is divorce court you may find yourself relieved or anxious, drained or invigorated, lonely or in desperate need of your own company. You feel eight years older, or ten years younger. Everyone reacts differently.
You will see your children differently, your co-workers differently, and yourself differently. You’re no longer one half of someone else, you’re you again. And that’s amazing and terrifying at the same time.
This is an amazing opportunity to figure out who you are.
But you don’t have to go about it all alone.
There are many great professionals, including financial planners and therapists, who can help you adapt (internally and externally) to the very new, very strange landscape you find yourself in. Some of these planners and counselors even specialize in helping people who are recently divorced.
There are certified divorce financial planners, who specialize specifically in reformulating the economic realities of divorcees, including helping set budgets, understanding social security benefits, and how to make retirement plan last longer.
There are qualified counselors, therapists, and social workers who can meet with you to get to the bottom of your feelings in your brave new world – as you have probably been too preoccupied with how your children, family, neighbors, boss, and the judge are feeling to focus on yourself.
If you need help, ask for help. We all need a little advice now and then.